Everyone has heard the saying "The Good Die Young" and we often wonder whether this statement is true or is it something that we have heard so many times that we only recognize it when someone young is taken away from this life? Many people each year lose family members, both young and old, and whether or not an individual believes in God, each of us question what does an innocent child or a kind hearted person do in order to deserve living a short life? It is easy to become bitter at everyone around you if you have lost a loved one, but this feeling tends to heighten if the family member died younger than we believe they should have.
While none of us can explain why many things happen, one thing we can be sure of is that whenever someone who is extremely young passes, it touches our heart in a way that is unexplainable. It is not that a person who is 80 years old is less important, however, most individuals feel that those who are 80 have had an opportunity to experience life, love and happiness on this earth. But a 10 year old who died was never given similar opportunities....
Or were they?
No one can heal the pain that someone feels for a lost loved one, but no one can deny that a person who is suddenly taken away at a significantly young age has a greater impact on not just the family members, but those who are on the outside looking in. It is not uncommon for younger people to forget that mortality is not just for the old, but for the young as well. Seeing a young person die forces people to realize that life is short and that sometimes, we all need to "seize the day". While these events may be horrifying and nothing short of a tragedy, oftentimes individuals can find peace in these events if they allow themselves to recognize that the person who was taken much too soon, had a purpose that they fulfilled. And they fulfilled their purpose not only in their own lives, but in the lives of others. The innocent is no longer suffering in this life anymore, but it is those who are left behind.
While there is no explanation as to why things happen, perhaps many of us who have witnessed the young die can admit that those are the people who have grabbed our hearts the most. They are often the one's who will remain imprinted in our hearts and lives forever, and this is one of the primary reasons why they were/are some of the most influential people who walked the face of this earth. We also need to recognize that regardless of who the person was, they were not ours to keep.
If you or someone you know is hanging on to the loss of a loved one, or a loss of anything, it is time to enjoy the memories, celebrate their lives and break free for 2013.
"In this meaningless life, I have seen everything, including the fact that some good people die young and some wicked people live on and on. 16 So don't be too good or too wise! Why destroy yourself?17 On the other hand, don't be too wicked either -- don't be a fool! Why should you die before your time? 18 So try to walk a middle course -- but those who fear God will succeed either way (Ecclesiastes 7:15-20)."
Written By: Te-Shandra Haskett, MBA