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Why you dislike your postpartum body and how to embrace it.

If you have had a baby and you do not like your postpartum body then you are not alone. Most women struggle to accept their postpartum body.  But have you ever wondered "why."" "Why do we dislike our postpartum body?" Why is it so hard to accept the difference?" "Why do so many women opt to change it through surgery or other ways that are advertised ?" Below are some of the top reasons why you hate your postpartum body. 5.  Your clothes don't fit the same After you have a baby, oftentimes your clothes  will not fit. Whether you are 6 weeks postpartum or 10 years, your clothing may never fit exactly the same, regardless of how much weight you lose. As a result some women may start to feel like a stranger in their own body. They may not know what clothes will flatter them anymore or how to find new clothes that look great on them. This can lead women to dislike their body. 4. You feel judged by others It is no secret that we live in an era wher


If you live in this world, then you have probably experience "unhappiness." It is inevitable. In life you will have difficulties, but this does not mean that there are not a few things you can do to try to increase your happiness. Here are 5 things you can change in your life that may make a difference in how you view the world. 

The news is full of drama, sadness and people hurting one another. It is not shocking that an individual may feel down right depressed if they are constantly watching things on television or listenting to things on the radio that are constantly filled with bad events that are surrounding them. The solution to this is to try to shut off the news at least one day per week. Take that time to really dedicate your time searching for a good event or two. Look onine for positive messages or purchase for yourself an inspirational novel; it will give you renewed energy and probably make you feel lighthearted. Remember that whatever your eyes and ears take in on a continuous basis, become a part of you. 

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (Philippians 4:8).

It is no secret that whenever you get around someone who is constantly degrading you then it makes you feel lousy. You can be on cloud nine and all it takes is to encounter that one person who just brings you down about 10 notches. We all have people like this that we know and probably love. Sometimes, in order to make yourself happier, it is a great idea to distance yourself from those who tear you down. This is not a selfish act. A person should always take care of their own mental health before they care for another. 


Depending on the circumstances, closing out the people who drive your energy down can be difficult. If you are married to them or have close family member, you may feel extremely torn. Generally someone who is filled with negativity makes it difficult for you to get any space because they are always playing the "guilt" trip. This situation is not hopeless though. If one of your close family members responds negative to you, ignore it, go to a separate room or open a window for a breath of fresh air. The WORST thing you can do in this situation is to argue with a person who has this attitude. Many actually will feed off of your responses. Instead of responding in a negative manner, either try not to respond or counteract the negativity with good. REMEMBER, A PERSON CANNOT ARGUE BY THEMSELVES. IT TAKES TWO! 

"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good
(Romans 12:21)."

SIDE NOTE: If you are in an abusive relationship, that is a completely different circumstance and you need to leave.

Looking and feeling healthy can be an intricate key to feeling happy. In fact, doctors recommend that those who experience depression or mental illness should make exercise a key component in their lifestyle. People who exercise stay healthier longer and can even keep from developing certain conditions. Developing this habit can help prevent having heart attacks, strokes and many other diseases. Exercise also gives you more energy

If you find that you have a hard time becoming motivated, always find a buddy who will hold you accountable. Make a commitment with someone else to get up in the morning or afternoon and just take a 10 minute walk. NEVER start off trying to exercise for an hour. Always take SMALL steps!


Living a habitual lifestyle can cause sadness. Sometimes people get into a rut of doing the same thing over and over. It is time to change up your routine. Do something that is out of the ordinary. This does not mean that you have to conquer the world, this simply suggests that instead of eating dinner at 8 pm, try having dinner at 6 pm and lay outdoors at 8 pm instead. Switch your routine around. You will be surprised at what a difference a change in scenery can do for you. 

If you are really bold, go out and help someone else. Helping and caring for someone that you do not know is one of the most rewarding things in life. Many people do not understand this, simply because they have not tried. If you are up for the challenge, just opening a door for someone to let them in or giving someone the right away while you are driving can bring a smile to your face because you have done something nice for someone outside of your general circle. Someone who cannot give you back anything in return. 

But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him (1 John 3:17).


As crazy as this sounds, take out a pencil and paper or open a word document and just count all of the things that you do have. DO NOT THINK OF ANYONE ELSE BUT YOURSELF FOR THIS MOMENT. Write all of the things that make you special and unique. If you can only think of one thing, that is okay. Go back later on the same day or the next day and write down number two. You will find that the more you count your blessings, the more blessing you will have...

Written By: Te-Shandra Haskett, MBA