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Why "some" women are opting to have children later?!

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As the years go by  more women are choosing to give birth to their first child later on in life. The trend for so many years was women having children in their 20's, however, that is slowly changing over the years. According to the CDC, there has been a decline in births to teens and women in their 20's and a rise in women having children in their 30's and even 40's. If you are currently asking yourself why this trend has started to happen more frequently, there are several reasons. 


#4.
EDUCATION/CAREER
Studies have shown that there is a direct correlation between women obtaining a higher degree and having children later. This number increases if the woman has a masters degree or higher. Many women who are seeking higher degrees tend to be extremely career focused and are striving to put their career ahead before they seek starting a family.


#3.
 INCREASE POPULARITY WITH
IN VITRO 
FERTILIZATION
In Vitro fertilization is becoming more widely used then ever. In Vitro fertilization is a process that involves an egg being fertilized by a sperm outside of the body. Sometimes people lump all women into the category of all wanting to get married and instantaneously  their "biological" clock starts ticking. This is an inaccurate statement. Every female is different, therefore everyone does not have similar goals and time constraints that another individual may have.

2.
THE FUN FACTOR
Yes, today's women appear to be enjoying their lives by traveling and just having the freedom to do as they choose before they take on the responsibility of a child. Even married couples are taking the extra years to do things together, including bonding. This should not be surprising since a new study shows that 90% of a couples happiness decreases after having their first child. This is generally attributed to the added responsibilities and the unrealistic expectation the soon to be parents had "prior" to having their first child. 

#1.
ECONOMIC FACTORS
The economy has taken a severe hit, thus making some women think twice about having children now, as opposed to later. Women in their 40's despite the economy appear to be affected the least by their decision to have children now. Generally because they understand the risk associated with waiting over a certain amount of time to conceive a child. However, there are many couples who feel that children are expensive and choose to  wait until they have somewhat established their careers and have added a little more savings to their bank account. Not only has the economy been a contributing factor on "when" a couple (woman) decides to have a child, but it is also a huge reason why families are shrinking. Back in the 1990's the average household in America consisted of 2 children. Before then many more. Now, it is not unusual to see a family of 3.

Regardless of when you and your partner decide to have a child, it is a personal decision. While waiting may be great for one couple, this may not be in your desired plans. You may feel like 20 is right for you. The important thing is to NOT look at another individual's lives or listen to the expectations of others.  Certain people in society have taken it upon themselves to try to pressure people into making the same life decisions that they have made concerning everything, including the proper age for a woman to conceive. People have also led to the fallacy that unless a woman has children, then her accomplishments in life mean nothing. All of these of course are fallacies. Out of fairness,  having a child does not make you more  or less important. 

 What people fail to recognize is that every life plan is different and  they forget that after you have a child, they are there for life. While other couples may be excited and attentive towards the new parents to be, this excitement factor wears off quickly and the reality of parenting sets in.  Children are expensive and emotionally taxing; when you and your partner are  ready, you will know the right time.

If you are intending to "wait" make sure that you do not skip your annual physical. This will ensure that you are in good health now, for later in the future. Talk to your gynecologist about the risks associated with childbirth at different ages (See additional resources below). Although there are standard precautions, every woman has a different body and should personalize what is physically best for her with the help of her doctor. 





CELEBS WHO HAD CHILDREN LATER IN LIFE
(A few of many)


FIRST TIME MOM, 41 YEARS OLD


HAD FIRST CHILD AT 42, 2ND, 43

FIRST TIME MOM, AGE 41



FIRST TIME MOM, AGE 41


FIRST TIME CHILD, AGE 41





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THE TRAGEDY OF THE "MISSING"

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Every year nearly 800,000 children under the age of 18 are reported as missing. This startling statistic works out to be over 2,000 children daily. Out of that number, 20% of those missing children are black or African American. When any child goes missing, it is a tragedy both to the child and to the family. Regardless of the color of the child, each  one matters, but that is not how black children are seen. Unfortunately, there is a huge disparity among searching for "black" children. Although it is unspoken, the need to jump on the case of a missing black child is not shown as  an emergency. In the past, there have been enormous cases that the media have  jumped on such as JonBennett Ramsey and more recently Caylee Anthony. When these beautiful little "Caucasian" girls went missing it took the media about a month to place them in national headlines everywhere. Meanwhile, there were countless numbers of little black children, such as the case of Riyla Wilson. Little Riyla was missing for over a year before she was even acknowledged. And the sad part is that most people who read this article, still do not know who Riyla Wilson is, but they are extremely familiar with Caylee Anthony.


Riyla Wilson was a 4 year old beautiful little black girl that went missing back in 2001. What makes this case so strikingly disturbing is that little Riyla was a Florida foster care child. She was a part of a system that is supposed to keep up with the well being of children. The girl was only found to be missing after a new case worker was assigned. This case is still going on. View: TRIAL RESUMES IN CASE OF MISSING FOSTER GIRL. Some people will say that this is just one case, however, it is actually one case of MANY. While Jaycee Dugard and Caylee Anthony remained a  national story, it was not the same for  children like, Amir Jennings who is another current missing child's case. (To view more missing black children, please view the additional information below). If you took a poll, most people, including blacks, have never heard of any of  these precious children. The media may mention it in passing  or most likely not mention them at all. Many people may try to make excuses as to why some children are mentioned and others remain not mentioned, but the facts remain the same. Minority children simply do not get the same attention. This is not a time to point fingers and blame each other. Nor is this a race war. This is simply a reality and a symbol that things need to change. Every missing child, red, yellow, black, white or green, is precious and this is not a matter of focusing on whether or not there are racial reasons behind these tragedies, but this is the moment to become educated and aware. It could just save a life...

"See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven (Matthew 18:10)."









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Top 10 toys of all time & Safety Toy Month!

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The holiday season has already arrived and Christmas shopping is in full force. Every December, is Safe Toys and Gifts month. This was designed to educate people about the dangers of certain toys. Parents and people who give gifts should be very aware that some of the toys they may pick out can potentially harm a child. Although many manufacturers are supposed to have guidelines to provide people with "safe" toys, sometimes these are not fool proof. Anytime you shop for a gift, regardless of what your child may want, please keep their safety first. CHOOSE TOYS THAT ARE:





  • Flame resistant
  • Washable fabric
  • Lead free if paint is included
  • Non-toxic art materials
  • Crayons that have been evaluated by the American Society for Testing & Materials (ASTM D-4326, should be labeled on the toy)

For more guidelines on the appropriate toys to purchase your child, view the following:


HAPPY HOLIDAYS! STAY SAFE!


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