Whether we choose to believe it or not, we all have that special someone(s) who is constantly competing against us. Whenever you purchase something a tiny bit nicer, they always have to buy something "bigger" and "better." It is almost like envy has turned them into someone unrecognizable. If you are dealing with this issue or you happen to be the person who is constantly competing or envious of your friends or family, then here are 5 ways to deal with envious people.
STOP TELLING THEM WHAT NEW ITEM YOU HAVE PURCHASED!
A person who shows envy towards you is always going to one up you. This means that whatever new item that you buy, they will always make it their ambition to try to buy something that they feel is better than yours. Sometimes the individual who is showing envy towards you will actually go out and spend loads of money, but often times they will lie about the things they do not have. And if you are playing the game of competition with them, this can put you in financial distress, likely over someone who is being deceptive of their purchases.
ON THEIR ACCOMPLISHMENTS!
The last thing that your enemy or "envious" culprit wants to hear is you step up to the plate and congratulate them. They are always going to expect you to show the same type of envious behavior they are displaying towards you. Congratulating your envious buddy, will completely throw them off and eventually will show them that you are NOT playing their immature games.
LEARN TO SEPARATE & EXPAND YOUR FRIENDSHIP WITH OTHERS!
Envious behavior is destructive to anyone who is constantly around someone who exhibits this manner of behavior. It is toxic and has the ability to destroy you or your loved ones. Your life will never be completely peaceful and there will be guaranteed drama from the absurd competition. Even if it is a family member, sometimes the best thing to do is to separate yourself before a disaster strikes. Sometimes in order to save yourself from harm, you have to learn to let people go.
People who are are "extremely" envious always have low self-esteem and although you may feel that you are the only one they are currently competing with, it is not likely. They use materialistic things and bizarre stories to make themselves look better in the face of others. They have a tendency to have a strong desire to "need" praise from outside sources in order to make themselves feel good about themselves. Their entire self-worth is identified by what everyone else thinks, and never how they feel about themselves. This is a very sad situation to be in. If you happen to be dealing with this, instead of getting angry, take a moment to realize that their life is full of sadness not because they do value you, but because they do not value themselves.
The next time your buddy, co worker or family member tries to one up you...IGNORE THEM! Never ask them questions and do not show any interest in their ludicrous behavior. If you choose to show any emotion towards them, show them love and be proud of them. This will confuse them and as stated before, and eventually your envious friend will realize that you are not playing games with them. This can do one of two things. Make them hate you more because you will not join their immature competition, or (hopefully) allow them to realize that you are no longer accepting their behavior. Regardless of the facts, ignoring someone's behavior is protecting "you" from a lifetime of games that will never end up being beneficial to you. GOOD LUCK!
Written By: Te-Shandra Haskett, MBA