This is a topic that has forever been debated. Is it okay to date someone who is older than you? By older, I do not mean a couple of years, I am referring to 10 years or more. The couples who you stumble upon that appear to be a million miles apart but yet so close. Or are they? Is there really any benefit to dating someone older. If you ask most females why they chose to be with someone older, they will quickly respond because the boys within their age group are just plain immature. So why wait? Grab someone who is already established and marry that guy or gal today! Your life will be so much better...right?
This article does not suggest that people of age groups cannot coexist together as a happy couple, however, there are a few things that anyone who is considering dating someone significantly younger or older should think about:
AM I DATING THIS GUY/GAL BECAUSE THEY CAN PROVIDE FOR ME?
DO I REALLY LOVE THIS PERSON, OR IS IT A LEVEL OF ATTRACTION TO A DIFFERENT SET OF PEOPLE?
AM I USING THIS RELATIONSHIP TO FILL A VOID IN MY LIFE
(I.E. PARENTAL LOVE)?
These are the top three questions that anyone who is dating out of the age group should consider. Everyone deserves to be loved and if you are choosing to be with someone because they are more established or because you like them young, think again. Not only are you misguided about age, but you are also living in a world that does not exist. If you or someone you know marries you because of your age (you being younger), be very aware that they may eventually trade you in for a "newer model".
The point of this article is not to point out whether or not dating outside of your age range is right, but rather to allow people to think about their decisions BEFORE they make them. Many (not all) younger girls become caught up in scams like prostitution and porn, just because they had someone older tell them the words they have never heard. Some may become brainwashed into truly believing that they are always wrong, but their older partner is not, because they have lived a longer life.
This is a FALLACY! Life experience has nothing to do with wisdom. Wisdom is something that is acquired from above. (But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere James 3:17). But whether you are older or younger, it is important to get someone who is on a similar path, including their way of thinking.
Will you experience hardships?
Of course. Every relationship experiences tough times, but it you marry someone who is from a completely different generation, you are adding insult to injury. Kids who grow up in the 90s are different then those who grew up in the 50s, 60s, 70s. etc. We are all different people, but the truth is that each generation is different and many times relationships end because one or both of the partners cannot relate to others outside of their age range. I can also suggest that many people can become very insecure if they see their significant other smiling with someone who is close to their age, but the same can be said for a couple of the same age...
Now, I have gotten to the bottom of this article and I have managed to not give an answer, and guess what? I will not. Who you decide to date, marry or have a great time with, (unless you are under-age) is YOUR decision. Only YOU can determine whether or not that person is there for you and will love and cherish you for who you are and NOT how old you are. After all, there are plenty of people who marriage a person who is the exact same age and are not able to understand one another.
YOUR LIFE IS YOUR OWN, OWN IT!
"A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies (Proverbs 31:10)."
YOU SHOULD LOOK
FOR IN A SPOUSE!
Written By: Te-Shandra Haskett, MBA