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WHAT YOU MAY
NOT KNOW ABOUT MEN!
Q & A
#1
GUYS ONLY DATE
SKINNY CHICKS!
FALSE!
Men are the most international group of "beauty lovers" you will find. They love and appreciate women of ALL SIZES, more than the average female may think. The media has corrupted our minds into believing that the only form of beauty is "skinny" or a size zero. Fortunately, this is not true. If you are a curvy gal and you find a hard time dating, it may have more to do with self-esteem, and less to do with your weight. Confidence is sexy. Any sign of insecurity will automatically shine through to EVERYONE! Most people are drawn to a secure woman. Any man who does not appreciate you for who you are is not worth your time or energy.
SIDE NOTE: Never get into a relationship until you love yourself. Having a low self- image about yourself will always attract the wrong men. There are plenty of men (and others) who purposely choose women with low-self esteem and take advantage of them. These type of people are predators. They prey off of the weakness of another individual because they personally lack self-esteem.
SIGNS YOU HAVE
LOW-SELF ESTEEM:
You are constantly full of self-hatred.
"I am fat, stupid, crazy, worthless, pathetic...etc."
You allow others to treat you bad because you truly believe that you are not worthy of anything better.
You are full of "envy" and constantly comparing!
Your social skills are less than average.
"Everyone is better than me!"
"How come I don't have what she has?"
You are constantly putting other people down as an effort to create a false sense of self-esteem towards yourself and others.
"Why are you so stupid?"
"I am so much better than her!"
"Oh, well, I did this..."
Women with self-esteem issues, often remain in abusive relationships because they do not feel "worthy" of anything better.
You never accomplish your goals. "Scared to fail."
You find it difficult to "handle" the truth (constructive criticism).
You base your value in life on your achievements, rather than who you are as a person. Many people with low-self esteem do this to overcompensate for the personality they feel they are incapable of having.
SIGNS YOU HAVE
A HEALTHY SELF-ESTEEM:
You walk with your head held high, not out of arrogance but because you feel confident.
You can accept and give compliments when necessary.
You value being treated with respect.
You surround yourself with positive people and will quickly sever a relationship with anyone who has bad tendencies to put you down as a person.
Personal goals are important to you.
You are CONFIDENT! CONFIDENT! CONFIDENT!
People who treat themselves with dignity and respect, will gain it from others. Having a healthy self-esteem will NEVER alleviate problems throughout your life. It will just allow you to develop healthy relationships and an attitude about yourself that says, "I AM WORTH IT!" YOU WILL STILL HAVE BAD DAYS EVEN WITH A WONDERFUL SELF-ESTEEM.
HOW DO IKNOW IHAVE LOW-SELF ESTEEM?
Review the previous list and think about which one describes you the best.
BOTTOM LINE: MEN LOVE CONFIDENT LADIES! THE SIZE OF YOUR JEANS, HAVE NOTHING TO WITH ACHIEVING A GREAT MAN. If it does, you should never desire to be with that type of man. Any man who judges you every time your appearance changes, is NOT MARRIAGE MATERIAL! Everyone will change as life goes on.
If you are currently in a relationship with someone who is constantly belittling you because of your changing appearance, GET HELP! Being around constant negativity WILL DESTROY YOU! YOU ARE WORTH MORE!
Sorry folks, this is false AGAIN! All men do not cheat. There are really good men who will remain faithful to you. Being faithful is not just something that women do, any person who truly loves you and wants you to be happy, WILL NEVER SACRIFICE THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU!
BY THE WAY... WOMENCHEAT TOO!!!
As I always ask, who do you think your man is cheating with? Unless he is gay...it is another woman....
To insinuate that "ALL" men cheat, is a ludicrous stereotype that will destine you to be in a "bad" relationship.
Allowing someone to habitually cheat on you is another indication that your self-esteem needs to be renewed. Many women/men who believe the false notion that "everyone cheats," usually:
Have grown up in a household where they see one or both of their parents habitually cheating.
They are the actual cheaters!
If you are constantly paranoid that someone is cheating,
could it be possible that you are doing the same?
"Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things
(Romans 2:1-2)."
Adultery (Merriam Webster)
Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband; also: an act of adultery
" No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it
(1 Corinthians 10:13)."
#3.
MEN ARE NO LONGER
OLD-FASHION!
FALSE!
The term "old fashion" is used to describe me who treat women with respect! Many people believe that their are no good men left. Of course, this is false. In fact, if you go around believing this fallacy, this will increase your chances of uniting with an ignorant man who makes YOU OPEN HIS DOOR!
#4.
THEY ALL LIKE WOMEN
BARE FOOT AND PREGNANT!
FALSE
This is something that you may not know, but anytime you see OR hear the words "ALL, EVERYTHING, EVERYBODY..." the statement that follows is generally NOT TRUE! We are all human beings, however, each one of us are unique. We may have all been created in the same image, but that is not an indication that EVERYONE HAS THE SAME PERSONALITY!
Some men like their wives to stay at home while they work outside of the home. Depending on your preference, this may be suitable for you. However, if you are a career oriented person, there is a man for you. Do not waste your time on a man who does not respect your plans and wishes. This will destroy you as a person AND ruin the relationship.
BOTTOM LINE: NEVER BE WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT RESPECT YOUR CAREER CHOICES, THIS CAN CAUSE MAJOR ISSUES!
The average male will look at a woman and have NO IDEA WHAT SHE IS WEARING! Unless he is gay, the only thing he will notice is your personal beauty that shines through. Men are notorious for making this statement, BECAUSE THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY ARE LOOKING AT.
BOTTOM LINE: A hot chick is a hot chick!
SIDE NOTE: Many of the women that men deem to be the most attractive, are generally doing something a bit extra to enhance their beauty. This is not necessarily a bad thing, nor is their anything wrong with choosing not to wear make-up. Women AND men should be aware that this statement is not true! Check out Askmen.com. Do you really think they have all seen the women they are rating? NO! Most of them have no clue what these women look like in person, nor would they be identify what it is fake versus real. If you look good, you look good...END OF STORY! WARNING! DO NOT take "fake" to an unhealthy level. You should at least be somewhat recognizable when you shed off whatever you bought.
#6.
MEN DO NOT LIKE WOMEN
WHO DRESS SEXY...AFTER
THEY ARE TOGETHER...?
This is a common confused area. Man gets woman and was attracted to her when she was dressing in cute outfits with make-up. Suddenly (or little by little), the guy becomes infuriated with the appearance that he once found attractive.
WHAT IS WRONGWITH THIS?
EVERYTHING!!!!
Never allow yourself to be with a person who will try to change who you are and what you love. They knew, prior to entering the relationship, what you wore and how you wore it. There is NO REASON, why someone should change who you are. Anyone who is adamantly doing this to you is a victim of low-self esteem. Generally any man who is putting you down for those cute outfits, is VERY insecure! They believe that you are dressing a certain way to receive attention from other men. It is hard for an individual who is like this to conceptualize why any lady would want to feel and look good for "herself."
NEVER BE WITH AN INSECURE PERSON! Wear what you want (appropriate for the where you are going of course) and be proud of who you are.
If you are the person who is trying to change who you are, they obviously do not love you and...IT WILL NEVER WORK!
Eventually the individual who is being mistreated, will grow up and recognize the severe self-esteem issues their abuser puts them through.
If you are the abuser, please get help! Anyone who truly believes that the only way they can preserve any relationship is through "control" needs to seek immediate counseling. This type of behaviour destroys multiple lives.
The word "only" throws this entire statement off (again). Men value sex, but many also desire meaningful relationships. If you feel that a person is with you for physical reasons...LEAVE!
SIGNS HE MAY BEUSING YOU FOR SEX:
He calls late at night.
This is a common sign! After a person has finished with their main squeeze during the day, they contact their nightly booty call.
He is hard to get in touch with by phone, email or even facebook.
"This is known as the disappearing act!"
You never go out on a public date.
This could indicate that he is already in a relationship with someone else. A person who is weary of being seen with you, probably has something or "someone" to hide. Make sure a guy takes you out...YOU DESERVE IT!
Your only activity is "sex"
He leaves instantaneously after the two of you are physical.
You do not know where he works, lives or have never seen his family.
Your relationship never moves past stage one.
IF HE IS ALREADY MARRIED, HE IS USING YOU FOR SEX!
BOTTOM LINE: NEVER ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE USED FOR SEX. TELL HIM (OR HER) TO AIM LOWER. OR IF YOU ARE A GIRL, MAYBE IT WOULDN'T HURT YOU TO AIM WITH YOUR RIGHT KNEE....
"5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight (Proverbs 3:5)."
#8.
YOU CAN JUDGE A MAN'S BEHAVIOUR BASED ON HIS ETHNICITY?
FALSE!
The colour of a man's skin has NOTHING to do with how well they will treat you. Allowing your mind to believe this will only result in you becoming involved with the "wrong" guy.
Also, having this mentality will lead you to believe that if you are with a "tan" guy who treats you horribly, then that is as good as it gets. Olive men MUST BE WORSE!
BOTTOM LINE.
RACEDOES NOTMATTER... "Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment (John 7:24)."
