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DO BLACK MEN PREFERWHITE WOMEN? Q & A
Most of the time when you think of an interracial relationship, the first image that comes to your mind is a white female with a black male. Many black women complain that all of their "good" black men are being taken away by the white female. It is often believed that White women have their pick of the litter. They can date whoever they want, but black women do not have this privileged. So why should a white female go after the only decent black men and leave nothing behind for the "black" woman. Why do they need to steal all of your good men and everything else.
For years, this has been the common theory that has created unnecessary strife between black and white women and the black male. Over 70% of black women are single. Black females are the most available women on the market.
Traditionally black women are raised to stick with their own culture. If they married someone outside of their race then they are automatically considered "traitors". A black woman is expected to stick by her black man regardless of what happens. However, the loyalties are not mutual. Black men are immediately given a thumbs up for achieving a "white" female or any other female that is not a black woman. It is almost like they have won a golden prize and they wear it with pride and joy.
Regardless of how many times a black male goes out and dates a woman of a different culture, the black woman is suppose to remain loyal to the black man. In fact, there are many black men who are currently in interracial relationships that become angry with a black female they do not even know, simply because she is dating a man who is "non-black." This is quite a double standard....
Are the black churches helping keep black women single?
No, this is a ridiculous expectation that has been put on black women for years. Millions of black women are being held captive by this "traitor" mentality and often remain single because of this "loyal" expectation. This would indicate that the lower marriage rates for black women mean lower childbirth rates....False. Many black women are conceiving children outside of marriage. A shocking 75% of black children born from black mothers are from a single family household. This is a cycle that has continued to climb throughout the black culture.
#8
"What will your family say if you dated someone else?"
Regardless of whether you are male or female, your family will always have something to say about the person you bring home. Negative and positive. There is a direct correlation between you really feeling smitten with your new relationship and your family only being able to recognize the bad.
When you start dating someone that you truly care about, you become all about them. Families can see this as a threat and some may even try to cause a division between you and the person you have chosen to be with.
"What should I do if I care about someone "different" than me?
Who do I choose?"
Choose to be happy and in a healthy and happy relationship. You can never make every one happy and it is not your job or responsibility. Any family who decides to mistreat you because of who you are with, is not really worth having around. As harsh as this may sound, when you allow your family to control who you marry, this can escalate into a huge problem. Not standing up for your belief will cause you personal harm and your relationship will remain volatile. Give your family the control over who you marry and I guarantee you that the control will not stop there. And always remember that a person who tries to make you choose, does not truly love you.
Sometimes you need to break the cycle. If your family has legitimate concern about the person you have chosen to be with, then rage and anger is not a form of love. And if you happen to be the family member who disapproves of your loved ones choice because of the color of his or her skin, this is a "no no." People are people. We are all individual beings and should be treated with respect and dignity. There is no reason why a person should choose to hate another, on the basis of their appearance.
BOTTOM LINE:
This type of hate cannot exist in the hearts of someone who loves.
" If anyone says, "I love God,"
yet hates his brother, he is a liar.
For anyone
who does not love his brother,
whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen(1 John 4:20)."
#5
"What do men who have
a preference generally say
about black women
AND white women?"
Common stereotypes about black & white women:
Black women have too much drama and expectations.
White women are easier to control and will do more for their men.
Black women are generally expensive and white women are not as expensive, especially in the hair zone.
Black women do not find anyone outside of their race attractive.
White men only use black women for sex, they do not marry them.
White men and other races are "simply" interested in being in a relationship with a "black" woman.
Black women are less desirable.
Black women are gold diggers.
White women are less dominating and wild and free.
Black women have too much attitude.
Only black men can understand the "true" struggles of a black women.
If you like a black woman, you have a fetish, and if a black woman dates another ethnicity, she has forsaken her culture and no longer respects her roots.
Any female black woman who finds other men attractive outside of her race is a "traitor."
White women are sexier...
Whether or not these stereotypes are true, is up to the person who is reading this. Stereotypes begin in the heart and there is only one real way to change ignorance. CHANGE YOUR HEART! If a white female hears ANY male making a statement like this, IT IS NOT A COMPLIMENT! Nothing that suggests you are chosen because you are the weaker of the two is something to gloat about. YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT. Likewise, if you are a black woman looking for love, count it as a blessing that you are not with someone who believes these ridiculous stereotypes. These stereotypes are destroying potential lifelong friendships between the white and black females. Regardless of the ethnicity of a woman, she deserves to be treated with respect. Any man who disrespects one culture of women, will never be able to respect you! A MAN WHO LACKS RESPECT FOR ONE PARTICULAR GROUP OF WOMEN, HAS NO RESPECT FOR ANY WOMAN. It is time for women of all Nationalities to stop competing for love. True love does not involve competition. If a man desires to be with you, there will not be any one you will have to fight against. In fact, a man who loves you, will FIGHT FOR YOU (not physically, violence is a no no. There are more ways to fight or "stand up" for a person than acting out of violence.)!"
BEAUTYIS INTERNATIONAL!!
BEAUTIFUL BLACKWOMEN
#4
Common facts about ALL women:
They love attention
Enjoy being spoiled every so often
They all have feelings
Desire to be loved "fully" by their partners
Most love to shop AND get their hair done
MOST WOMEN COST $$$$!
ALL WOMEN HAVE SOME EXPECTATION FROM THEIR PARTNER...WHETHER THEY ARE BLACK, WHITE, PURPLE OR GREEN...
Ladies and Gentlemen... WAKE-UP! WAKE-UP! WAKE-UP! WAKE-UP!
#3
If you are a "male" who is constantly stereotyping women:
No one has the right to judge, including you. Women are all beautiful and they all have different personalities. They are to be treasured not on the basis of their physical appearance, but for who they are on the inside. The biggest concern, is that whether or not you choose to date outside of your race is absolutely fine. However, many black men are fathers to beautiful black little girls and an attitude like this can destroy the self-esteem of any innocent child. Children are innocent and they do not understand why they are not as good as the other little girl. All they are able to identify is that their father, their first male love, does not love them because they were not born a specific complexion.
A father's rejection is the highest form of rejection in any woman's life. This can lead to generational problems of drugs, alcohol, babies out of wedlock, suicide, lack of education and much more. As a father of any ethnicity, I would encourage you to keep those thoughts to yourself when it comes to caring and nurturing your daughter. Expressing outward hatred toward a lady because of her skin color will inevitably create animosity, fear and self-hate towards any young girl.
#2
"Do black men prefer white women?"
It is hard to determine who prefers what, however, if their is a man who is dating you because you are a preference, regardless of what your ethnicity is, this is wrong! The color of your skin should NEVER be a determinant as to why someone should marry and fall in love with you. Despite the "false" accusation that black women are less desirable than any other culture of women, their is hope. Women, (in general), need to stop placing such a heavy emphasis on the general "outside" appearance of a man. The color of his skin has NOTHING to do with how well he will treat you. Choosing to marry a man who treats you like garbage simply because he fits your "physical" standards will leave you "unhappy." Interracial dating is no different then dating someone as the same color of your skin. If a person prefers to have a relationship within their same ethnicity, that is fine, but it is also fine the other way. If a black man can date a white woman, then a black woman can do the same. If a black woman is a traitor, then so is the black man or "any" other person who chooses to date a a person outside of their culture. Dating outside of your race is not a fetish and you should never go out and look for a "specific" ethnicity believing one is better than the other. Regardless of who you are, this is a dangerous way to think. If you believe one stereotype because of a select few that you have met, or a what you see on your television screen, then you will be in for a shock when you run into that white female who bashes your car in.
EVEN CARRIE UNDERWOOD AGREES....
Do not worry about who prefers what, be with someone who prefers...YOU!
NO ONE CAN TAKE AWAY THE PLANS A HIGHER POWER HAS IN STORE FOR YOU. IF HE WALKS AWAYS TO ANOTHER WOMAN FOR NO REAL LEGITIMATE REASON. COUNT IT ALL JOY! HE WAS NOT THE PLAN GOD HAD FOR YOU....
11 For I know the plans I have for you, ” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future
(Jeremiah 29:11).
#1
THINGS THATMATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP:
(especially if you are contemplating marriage)
Does he or she treat you with respect?
i.e. no cheating, unconditional love
Do they have goals and aspirations?
Are you more than just a preference?
Do they treat those who are important to you with respect, even if they do not like them?
Can he provide for you on an emotional level?
Does it matter to him if you gain weight or dye your hair?
Is he loyal, honest and caring?
Can he say "I am sorry."
Are you the center of his world?
Will he give his last bit of favorite food to you?????
Dating should never be a competition. It is about finding the qualities that match who you are as a person. It is about partnership and love....ALL OF THESE IMPORTANT FACTORS HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH RACE!
Authors Special Note:You are only being a "traitor" to yourself if you choose not to develop strong relationships with someone because of what they look like on the outside. We can not choose the color of our skin, BUT, we can choose to respect everyone despite their appearance. And for all those men who want a perfect woman....
"Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment (John 7:24)."
