Redefining the Face Of Beauty

I FEEL LIKE A FAILURE.....

Welcome to the failure tree......

DO YOU FEEL...

"I didn't get the promotion!"

I am NOT a failure!

"We broke up!"

I am NOT a failure!

"Crap! I should have gotten an A on that exam!"

I am NOT a failure!

"How come everyone else can go on a vacation and I can't?"

I am NOT a failure!

"My child is doing so poorly. It is my fault. I should've have done something different!"

I am NOT a failure!

"Well, I feel like everyone hates me! Why is everyone so critical!"

I am NOT a failure!

"My parents never encourage me."

I am NOT a failure!

"I give up......."

WHY YOU FEEL LIKE A FAILURE?

5. LACK OF MOTIVATION

The average person lacks motivation.

Many people feel as though everything should be handed to them on a silver platter.

"Not that big of a deal!"
"I am kind of tired today!"

The feeling of failure is associated with guilt. When an individual fails to "give it their all" they feel guilty.

"I could have done that! I just kind of got a little lazy!"

What is motivation?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/motivation

What are the reasons for lack of motivation and enthusiasm?

http://www.successconsciousness.com/lack-motivation-enthusiasm.htm

YOUR REALITY.......

The feeling of failure can be significantly decreased with doing the best you can, with what you have. This does not suggest that if you will not feel bad if you do not achieve what you have worked for. YOU WILL FEEL BAD! However, if you have done your best, you are NOT A FAILURE!

Sometimes what you want in life is not the "actual" plan a higher power has for you. If doors continue to shut, another door will open.

"For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my
ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts

(Isaiah 55:9)."

Do not expect things to be handed to you in life!

If something is handed to you, it is never a good idea. People take for granted things that are freely given to them.

When you work hard, you become more responsible, humble and appreciative towards other people. These are all characteristics that a FAILURE does not have.

"Whoever is slack in his work is a brother to him who destroys

(Proverbs 18:9)."

How to get motivated!

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Motivated

4. COMPETITION

"Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count
others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not
only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others
(Philippians 2:3-4)."

You were fine with your Honda Civic, ...until you looked at your neighbors new Mercedes. They have it all! A nicer car, home and a better looking spouse!

"I want what THEY have!"

"What I have is not good enough! NOT FAIR!"

REALITY.....

Competition and comparison is a "dangerous" game you will NEVER win. There will always be something that may "appear" nicer than what you have.

Notice I used the word "appear." The grass always looks greener....

Learn to appreciate what you have. Sometimes, not achieving what we want is a blessing in disguise.

" Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned

in whatever situation I am to be content

( Philippians 4:11-12)."

With everything that we are given in life, there is a cost.

A price YOU MAY NOT WANT TO PAY!

"From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded;
and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked

(Luke 12:48)."

Comparison only breeds hatred, low self-esteem, anger, greed and unhappiness.

UNHAPPINESS IS COMPARING YOUR LIFE TO SOMEONE ELSE!

If you can not handle the small things in life, you will never achieve anything "bigger."

"Well done, good servant! Because you have been faithful in
a very little, you shall have authority over ten cities

(Luke 19:17)."

NEWS FLASH!

Sometimes the people you envy, want what you have. They may want what you have so much that they purposely showcase their lives to you. It makes them feel better....only for a moment.

If you are one of these people....STOP! DANGER ZONE!

What is competition?

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/competition

Why not stop competing with others?

3. LISTENING TO CONSTANT NEGATIVITY FROM OTHERS!

“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you
pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you
(Matthew 7:1-5)."

"Jimmy you are stupid!"

"Jimmy why can't you ever be on time!"

"Jimmy you are crazy!"

"Jimmy, you will NEVER make anything of yourself in this life!"

"Jimmy, I don't like you!"

"Jimmy, I don't love you!"

REALITY.....

If you are the victim of words similar to the Jimmy comments above...I am sorry....

THIS IS A FORM OF ABUSE!

NO ONE has the right to victimize another individual with their words.
The abusive words come from lack of self-worth. It is NEVER the victims fault if someone is constantly degrading them.

Negative people are fearful of your success. You have the potential to do what they feel they could not.

Remove yourself immediately from the negative individual. This is a TOXIC relationship and it will kill you in some form.

Depression

Lack of motivation

Self-hatred

Always expecting the worse

Suicide...or worse....

THE ABUSED CAN BECOME THE ABUSER....

WHAT TO DO IF YOU ARE A CHILD IN A VERBALLY ABUSIVE HOUSEHOLD:

Seek immediate help from a local trusted authority.

The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-4-A-CHILD

Join a support group. "Support Works"

http://www.supportworks.org/shgfind.htm

Understand that IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! People who attack others with their words are victims as well. This pattern of behaviour was probably created from someone who told them the same words they are telling you.

Know that you are special and your life has a purpose.

If the parent does not stop the abuse, eventually you will have to cut off or limit contact with them.

Abuse is a disease that spreads.....

STOPPING THE CYCLE OF ABUSE BEGINS WITH YOU!

IF YOU ARE THE ABUSER IN ANY FORM:
(i.e. school or work bully, parent, teacher...etc.)

I am sorry. You were probably abused as well.

Whoever made you not feel special....LIED! Your life is valuable and you can change.

Stop the cycle...GET HELP!

What is child abuse!

https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/whatiscan/

"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good
for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear

(Ephesians 4:29)."

How to deal with special people!

http://tehaskett.blogspot.com/2012/06/how-to-deal-with-special-people.html

Abusive relationships and why they stay!

http://tehaskett.blogspot.com/2012/06/abusive-relationships-why-they-stay.html

Find an emotionally focused therapist!

http://www.goodtherapy.org/emotionally-focused-therapy.html

1-888-563-2112

2. BEING A PERFECTIONIST