He loves you? He loves you....NOT?? He loves you?
LET THE GAMES BEGIN!
ROUND ONE:
SCENARIO 1:
He wants to move your relationship forward, but you tell him you are not ready.
IF HE SAYS.....
"I can wait as long as you need. I really do not want to pressure you into anything. Take your time."
"I love you!"
HE LOVES YOU!
Words used to describe "patient"
diligent
persevering
enduring
long-suffering
forbearing
unhurried
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"You are taking to much time! I want to.......get married? have sex? move in?"
HE LOVES YOU....
"He loves you as much as I love my new couch....
I showed lots of patience by the way!!!!!!!!!"
NOT!
"Patience" is not:
intolerance
peremptoriness, strictness,
aloofness.
restlessness, restiveness,
nervousness, hastiness, impetuosity.
How to be "patient."
ROUND TWO:
SCENARIO 2:
An unexpected family crisis occurs the same weekend of his birthday. When you call him....
IF HE SAYS.....
"I know this is really a bad time....I will just call you back later. Go spend time with your family. They need you more right now."
"I love you."
HE LOVES YOU!
Words used to describe "kind."
benevolent, benign, bounteous,
charitable, clement, compassionate,
congenial, considerate, cordial,
courteous, friendly, generous, gentle,
good, gracious, humane, indulgent,
kind-hearted, kindly, lenient, loving, mild,
neighbourly, obliging, philanthropic,
affectionate, amiable, amicable,
beneficent,
understanding
propitious, sympathetic, tender-hearted,
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"I love you more!"
HE LOVES YOU.....
He loves you like I love my new shoes!
Totally fetch!
NOT!
You are NOT "kind" if you are:
cruel, hard-hearted, harsh,
heartless, merciless, severe,
unkind, unsympathetic, vicious
13 steps How to be kind!
ROUND THREE:
SCENARIO 3:
You bought a hot new head turning dress to wear out with your friends.
IF HE SAYS.....
"I love you!"
HE LOVES YOU!
You are not "envious" if you:
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"No reason for you to dress nice. Other guys do not need to look at you. It's me that you should impress!"
"I love you, I want you all to myself. My eyes only....."
He loves you like I love my new bedroom set!
NOT!
Words used to describe being "envious."
backbiting, coveting, covetousness,
enviousness, green-eyed monster, evil eye,
grudging, hatred, heartburn, ill will,
maliciousness, malignity,
Good men like women who dress like:
How to stop being jealous!
Overcoming jealousy in relationships!
ROUND FOUR:
SCENARIO 4:
You get a nice promotion possibly making more money than him.....
IF HE SAYS.....
"I am very happy FOR YOU!"
"I love you!"
"I love you!"
"I love you!
ļ»æļ»æYou are not "boastful" if you are:
"Proud"
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"Do you know how many awards I won last year? Too many! More than you or my colleagues. Incredible right?"
"I am sorry, you were telling me something about your scholarship....continue....because I love you and I want to hear all about you!"
HE LOVES YOU....
"He loves you like I love my new bathroom set!"
NOT!
You are "boastful" if you are:
bragging, cocky, conceited,
crowing,egotistical,
full of oneself, puffed-up, swaggering,
swanky, swollen-headed, vainglorious, vaunting
10 Ways to develop humility!
50 Ways to be more humble!
Forbes: Why it is essential to be humble!
ROUND FIVE:
SCENARIO 5:
You and your significant other are having a conversation about a past semi- friend who is doing excelling in life.
IF HE SAYS.....
"I have immense respect for Shawn! No one is perfect, but he can be a good guy."
HE LOVES!
"Honor" can be defined as:
complimentary, ex officer, formal,
honor is cause, in name or title only,
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"Shawn is a complete tool...that's why I did him in! Payback! He thinks we are friends...if he only knew...HA!"
HE LOVES YOU....
He loves you like I love my sandwiches...ROTTEN!
NOT!
IF A PERSON DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO SHOW LOVE/RESPECT TOWARDS OTHERS, DO NOT EXPECT THEM TO SHOW LOVE TOWARDS YOU!
Words used to describe "dishonor."
abasement, degradation, discredit,
disfavour, disgrace, disrepute,
ignominy, infamy, obloquy, odium,
opprobrium, reproach,
scandal, shame abasement, degradation,
discredit, disfavour, disgrace,
disrepute, ignominy, infamy, obloquy, odium,
opprobrium, reproach, scandal, shame abuse,
affront, discourtesy, indignity, insult,
offence, outrage, sacrilege, slight
3 "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others
(Philippians 2:3)."
How to honor yourself!
ROUND SIX:
SCENARIO 6
You really want him to participate in one of your new hobbies.
IF HE SAYS.....
"You are silly! I hate some of your hobbies but we can compromise!"
"I love you."
HE LOVES YOU!
Characteristics of a non "self-seeking" person
altruistic, benevolent, considerate, generous, magnanimous,
philanthropic, self-denying, selfless, self-sacrificing,
ungrudging, unselfish
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"Sorry babe! I am not going anywhere near that place....I will be the laughing stock around town! I have a reputation to keep. Just call me when you come back."
"You know I love you and I would do anything to make you happy though...right?"
HE LOVES YOU....
He loves you like I love tornadoes!
NOT!
You are "selfish" or "self-seeking" if you are:
egoistic, egoistical, egotistic, egotistical, greedy,
looking out for number one (informal)mean,
mercenary, narrow,
self-centred, self-interested,
self-seeking, ungenerous
Kindness ideas!
How helping others can reduce stress!
How to help others!
ROUND SEVEN:
SCENARIO 7:
You broke something....accidentally...
IF HE SAYS.....
"Why would I get mad at you for accidentally breaking glass? It happens."
"I love you You broke something....accidentally, it can be replaced...Are you okay? You didn't get cut did you?"
Characteristics of NOT being quick to "anger."
acceptance, amiability, approval,
calmness, forgiveness, goodwill,
gratification, liking, patience, peace, pleasure
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"What is wrong with you?????? How many times are you going to screw up and break my things? I paid money for this!"
"I love you, and I want to provide for you...."
HE LOVES YOU....
He loves you like I love this hat!
NOT!
Characteristics of being "angry."
annoyance, antagonism, choler, displeasure, exasperation, fury,
ill humour, ill temper, indignation, ire, irritability, irritation,
outrage, passion, pique, rage,
resentment, seeing red, spleen, temper, vexation, wrath
Controlling anger
American Psychological Association!
Find an anger management therapist TODAY!
ROUND EIGHT:
SCENARIO 8:
You hurt his feelings by calling him a big baby.
IF HE SAYS.....
"You made a mistake, I forgive you. God knows I have said a lot to hurt you in the past! Let's just move forward."
"I love you."
NOT!
"forgiveness" is:
absolution, acquittal, amnesty,
exoneration, mercy, overlooking, pardon, remission
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
"What you said was completely unforgivable! If you were trying to hurt my feelings...YOU DIDN'T!"
" I love you though."
HE LOVES YOU....
He loves you like I love her tan!
NOT!
CENTER NOTE:
Skin cancer is not a joke!
You have not "forgiven" if you:
blame, censure, charge, condemn,
find fault with, reproach, reprove
ROUND NINE:
SCENARIO 8:
An old friend that you both knew just lost his job.
IF HE SAYS.....
"Kenny and I had a falling out last year, but I still feel bad for his family situation. I wish their was something I can do to help ."
BUT, IF HE SAYS.....
SOMEONE WHO LAUGHS AT THEIR ENEMIES, DOES NOT UNDERSTAND LOVE....
SO THEY ARE NOT READY TO UNDERSTAND HOW TO LOVE YOU....
IF HE CAN NOT LOVE THOSE AROUND HIM....
HE CANNOT LOVE YOU....
This is where the game actually begins.....
The entire definition of "love" is written on the stairs previewed in the picture below.The person who you choose to be with, should possess similar qualities, however, it is important to know that NO ONE IS PERFECT! We are not capable of the remaining portion of this passage....
Why????
Because the remaining definition of love includes the following words:
alĀ·ways
1. At all times; invariably:
2. For all time; forever:
3. At any time; in any event:
nevĀ·er
1. Not ever; on no occasion; at no time:
2. Not at all; in no way; absolutely not
NO ONE IS CAPABLE OF LOVING TO THIS EXTENT. THIS IS WHERE OUR ABILITIES END, BUT A HIGHER "EVERLASTING" POWER OF LOVE BEGINS.....
In a relationship, someone who loves you should freely protect and trust you, however, it is impossible for any "person" to "always" do something. It is impossible for us to "never" fail.
Choose a life partner who will treat you with respect, love and kindness.
Always remember, humans are not capable of climbing to the "highest" journey or stairs of "love."
There is only "one" who is capable of this perfect love....
Love is an "action".....NOT a word.
"Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth
(1John 3:18)."
Written By: Te-Shandra Haskett, MBA
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REFERENCES:
http://www.synonym.com/synonyms/patient/
http://www.abcthesaurus.com/browse_antonyms/antonyms_for_patience.html
http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-synonyms/kind
http://thesaurus.com/browse/envy?s=t
http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-synonyms/boastful
http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-synonyms/selfish
http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-synonyms/anger
http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-synonyms/forgiveness
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/never
http://dictionary.reverso.net/english-synonyms/proud
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/always
