" I CAN NOT AFFORD A DIVORCE."
EXPLANATION: Really??? And how long has this been? Technically if he is still married, he should not be dating you, simply because he is not finished with his other relationship.
BOTTOM LINE: Wait until a man has completely ended a relationship before he decides to jump into one with you. Chances are, the guy is just putting off his divorce...because if he gets that divorce...then he will feel forced to marry you....
SIDE NOTE: Since he can not afford that divorce, he probably can not afford you!
"YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU!
I WILL GET A DIVORCE FROM MY WIFE, IT IS JUST NOT THE RIGHT TIME."
EXPLANATION: He wants his cake and eat it too.
BOTTOM LINE: He is NEVER going to leave his wife for you. Why would you want to be with a man who cheats on his wife? Word to the foolish: If he will cheat with you, he will cheat on you. You can not change a man! And if you know he is married and you are with him...well....that is another story...
"WE ALREADY LIVE TOGETHER!
WHY DO WE NEED A PIECE OF PAPER?"
EXPLANATION: He still wants his cake and eat it too!!
BOTTOM LINE: If it is only a piece of paper, then why doesn't he respect you enough to sign it? Are you cooking, cleaning and sleeping with him? Being a phony wife? Then....he needs to stop playing house or you need to move on.
FACT: Divorce rates are higher for couples who live together before marriage. There is a reason why there is an order. If this order is reversed, there will be consequences, whether you believe it or not.
FACT: Just because the divorce rate is high, does not give you an excuse to think that your marriage will fail. Never live your life based on statistics. Put it this way: If you never try, you have already failed....
"I AM JUST TOO YOUNG AND I AM NOT READY"
BOTTOM LINE: With a statement like that, he probably is too young to get married. Possibly other women on the side? Or maybe he just does not want to marry you.
"YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU, YOU ARE THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD, AND WE LIVE TOGETHER, IT IS ALREADY LIKE WE ARE MARRIED...."
BOTTOM LINE: If you are good enough to be the mother his child, then you are good enough to be his wife. Marriage is the ultimate commitment. If he is not committed enough to marry you, do not expect for him to be committed to your child. This is often why there are so many single mothers, especially among the black community. At least 70% of all children born to black women are not within marriage.
NOTE: HAVING A BABY WITH A MAN WILL NOT GUARANTEE HE WILL STAY WITH YOU.
Love yourself enough to have a man not only to put a ring on it, but say "I DO."
"He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD (Proverbs 18:22)."
Authors Note: If you have been with someone for several years and you still do not know where your relationship is going, I can answer for you....nowhere. Many people fool themselves and hang on to hope within a relationship where there is none. Sometimes they may even go as far as believing that marriage is not important to them, so they can feel better about knowing that he/she will not commit. Never just get married because you have a child together. Children grow up and have a life of their own, while you will be stuck with....God knows who...
I know, I know....these do not necessarily apply to everyone.But then again....How long have you been engaged? I wonder how many people put on their facebook relationship status listed as engaged or in a relationship and they are not? Why would anyone do that?
BEYONCE: SINGLE LADIES
Written By: Te-Shandra Haskett, MBA
HELPFUL MARRIAGE RATES & INFO! (I encourage people to always do their own additional research from various sources)
- HE LOVES YOU, HE LOVES YOU..NOT???
- HOW TO HANDLE YOUR CHEATING MAN!
- MEN YOU SHOULD NEVER MARRY!
- GOOD MEN LIKE WOMEN WHO DRESS LIKE....???
- LADIES GUIDE TO INTERPRETING THE DUMB THINGS MEN SAY!
- REASONS WHY MEN AND WOMEN CHEAT!?